Oh, the joys of unasked for advice. As parents, we have all been there and heard that. From our aunt explaining how to get a baby to sleep to your parents telling you how their parenting method works best to that friend who always knows better than you (and she isn’t even a mom herself!) Most of us know that one set way of parenting may work for one child, but not for another. So, it is not as simple as just following a manual when it comes to raising one’s children!
Some of this unsolicited advice is downright annoying, some a bit dangerous or outdated. Some advice we just have to wonder how on earth anyone could even suggest it! We have collected a few firm favorites many of us have heard as parents. By the end, we are sure you will recall hearing at least one of these painful suggestions!
“Don’t let the baby get used to being in your arms.”
Being the parent to a baby is hard, especially when they cry and won’t stop. Have you ever had someone tell you that the best way to get them to stop is to ignore them? Well, this advice is absolute rubbish because as we know, the only way for a baby to communicate is by crying! Many people still think that by ignoring their crying child, they can avoid it getting used to “soothing arms“.
“Now that you are on maternity leave, you have a lot of time, so learn something!”
A lot of people, especially people who are not yet parents themselves, assume that taking care of a child is easy. Many friends will assume you sit around doing nothing all day and that you will soon just become a “mom“. A career in the corporate world or partying with friends might not be what you want, maybe you just want to spend time with your baby, and that is perfectly fine. Being on maternity leave or even a stay at home mom IS a full time job and nobody should tell you what you should be doing with your time anyway.
“A mom should eat more to produce fat milk.”
No, loading up on fatty food is not going to be good for your milk. We know by now that eating a healthy and balanced diet is what nursing babies need their mothers to do. Well-wishers of this sort are usually from older generations as it is a complete old-wives-tale. The irony is that when the baby is done nursing, the mother is often scrutinized for gaining weight!
“Teach your kid to share things or they will grow into a greedy person.”
Sharing is a good quality, any parent would agree. But, just like forcing your child to kiss aunty Sally, you should not force them to share either. Some things are just for them, and that’s okay. You would not share your brand new car with a stranger, would you?
“Put on something warmer, and take off their hat.”
We never seem to win as parents, do we? Ever been in the situation where you’ve taken your child outside in the “wrong clothing”? We feel your pain. Just because your child seems to be over or under-dressed does not mean they are unhappy or about to die. We all know that we all have our own likes and dislikes and our bodies are all different, one person’s cold might be another person’s normal!
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