The idea of the perfect relationship has sure changed over time. Different eras tell stories of men courting women, women asking men to marry them to everything in between. It’s now a time where anything goes as long as it makes both partners happy. Who are the rest of us to judge?
There was a time when women were told that they should marry a man older than themselves because men mature slower than they do, and this basically balances out things. It turns out, however, that many women aren’t following this ol’ rule and that dating younger men may be the secret to a happy life.
There are many examples of women dating younger men that we can draw examples from
There are several examples of famous women who are in a relationship with a younger man, such as:
- Emmanuel Macron and Brigitte Trogneux (age gap: 25 years)
- Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling (age gap: 7 years)
- Kris Jenner and Corey Gamble (age gap: 25 years)
- Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden. (age gap: 6 years)
- Courteney Cox and Johnny McDaid (age gap: 13 years)
Of course, what you see above are only a few examples. Couples like this are probably more common than we think, and sex psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller performed a study to find out more. While the study is not published or peer-reviewed, it offers some interesting insight.
A Survey was conducted on 200 women.
The study surveyed 200 women in heterosexual relationships. It asked about the age of their partner and how satisfied they were with their relationship. The findings showed that women at least 10 years older than their partner were in the most stable, happiest relationships. It was also found that these men were more committed and seemed to be after something much more stable with their partners.
While these numbers don’t let us know exactly why these women enjoy younger partners, Dr. Justin Lehmiller hypothesizes that women dating younger men may enjoy the fact that they are more dominant and independent in their relationships. This leaves more room for equality which is what any healthy relationship should be built on.
“Why were the older women happier with their relationships? I can’t say with certainty based on my data, but it may be because when the woman is older, it might shift the power dynamic toward greater equality. We know from a lot of research that greater equality in a relationship tends to make couples happier. So perhaps it’s the case that this arrangement is just more equitable.” He said.
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A similar study
Dr. Milaine Alarie at the Institut National de la Research Scientifique in Montreal conducted an interview with 55 women who were between the ages of 30 and 60 years old. The common denominator was that these women were all dating men younger than themselves. They had an age gap of at least 5 years to qualify for the study. There were no other criteria to be met.
These women unanimously reported back that they had much better sex lives and suggested that younger men had better stamina and higher sex drives in bed. As one woman said: “I have a big sexual appetite, very big. I might want to do it, like eight times a day, you know. So with a man in his 40s, he will find that fun the first week. But I can tell you after the second week he doesn’t find it funny anymore.”
Many women reported being more comfortable with their bodies and didn’t feel the stigma around rigid beauty standards like their younger counterparts. As one participant said: “Older women, we’re more, you know, confident about ourselves. And we are going to walk into the room in our lingerie, if we have cellulite or not, you know? And a younger woman would be like, ‘Oh my god! I can’t wear this in front of him!'”
The findings aren’t one-sided at all when it comes to dating younger men
Interestingly, dating younger men not only benefits the women in the relationship. Men also claim to be happier. The idea that they are satisfying an older woman is a major turn-on for many men. It leaves them feeling accomplished, and this ultimately means that both partners are happy. As one participant shared: “Younger men try a bit harder — they want to impress you with their skills and their prowess, what they are able to do, and to what extent they can pleasure you. I have the feeling that they try harder than older men.”
“We know that a lot of men are into the idea of submitting to a dominant, powerful woman. They tend to see older women as having those characteristics. So maybe it’s a feeling of empowerment that ultimately underlies older women’s greater feelings of satisfaction—and perhaps that empowerment allows women to get more of what they want, sexually and otherwise.” Added Dr. Lehmiller.
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- “3 Reasons Why Some Women Prefer Being With Younger Men.” Psychology Today. Sarah Hunter Murray. March 19, 2019.
- “Women who date younger men have more satisfying relationships, study claims.” Mirror UK. Shivali Best. October 10, 2019
- “Older Women Who Date Younger Men Are More Satisfied.” Sex and Psychology. Dr. Justin Lehmiller. October7, 2019