“Text me when you get home”
This is a phrase that women have been saying to each other for years every time they leave a party, a friend’s place for dinner, or if they were working late. Women do this because of safety – because it is inherently more dangerous for a woman to walk home alone in the dark than men.
Since the kidnapping and murder of Sarah Everard in the UK earlier this month, women around the world are using the hashtag #textmewhenyougethome to tell their stories of sexual harassment and how they protect themselves.
“Text Me When You Get Home”
Sarah Everard was a 33-year-old marketing executive in London, the UK. She was walking home one night after visiting with some friends when she went missing. When neither her boyfriend nor her friends could get in touch with her, they notified the police. (1)
Police found her remains a few days later. In the end, they discovered that she had been abducted and murdered by a Kent and Metropolitan police officer. (1)
Her death has sparked outrage in the UK and around the world, as women are tired of not being able to do something so simple as walk home without having to fear for their lives. Personal Trainer Lucy Mountain started the #textmewhenyougethome movement on social media after her lengthy Instagram post about the incident. (2)
Women Are Outraged
Mountain starts out her post by saying that she is nearly at a loss for words.
“I feel like my words can’t do justice to how many women are feeling right now,” she wrote. “I haven’t been able to stop thinking about Sarah Everard and how a woman was not allowed to walk home. It’s unbearable.” (2)
She explained how this tragedy has caused her to have many more conversations, particularly with women, about the things that we have to do to stay safe while out alone. These are things that have become second-nature to us that most men don’t even think about. (2)
“We have all shared our live locations.
We have all changed our shoes.
We have all held our keys between our fingers.
We have all made phone calls, both real and fake.
We have all tucked our hair inside our coats.
We have all run down dark roads.
We have all theorised our escape routes.” she wrote on Instagram. (2)
She then explains that these are ingrained behaviors that most women have been doing since they were young girls. When you tell another woman that you take any of these safety precautions, they don’t bat an eye. They will usually tell you that they do, too. (2) It’s a lot more than just “text me when you get home.”
We Wish More Men Understood
To finish off her post, Mountain says that she wished more men understood this problem – really understood it.