Private Investigator Reveals Four Red Flags of a Cheating Partner

Relationships can be equally magical and tumultuous. It depends upon a few things, such as compatibility, communication, mutual respect, and fidelity. Sadly, people struggle with many of these aspects. As a result, nearly everyone has had at least one cheating partner in their relationships, former or current. It’s challenging to know the signs, but experts have offered hints.

4 Signs of a Cheating Partner

Aaron Bond is a private investigator, and he recently disclosed four major red flags to help you determine if you have a cheating partner. Some of these may surprise you.

1. Phone Protection

First, if they’re suddenly more protective of their phone or rush to it when they get a notification while it’s in the other room. “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful,” Aaron explained to The Sun. If you suspect you have a cheating partner, he suggests asking them if you can look something up on their phone. While he’s not necessarily condoning snooping, he does explain that their reaction will often be very telling.

2. Communication Fallout

Second, becoming less communicative. Aaron notes that a cheating partner will become more vague than normal about what went on with them that day. While some people may enjoy a less chatty end to a stressful day, if answers like “Oh my day was fine” are reoccurring with nothing to follow up, it may be a sign of a cheating partner.

3. Change in Intimacy

Third, a change in intimacy may be a sign of a cheating partner. Oddly, it could go either way, becoming more or less frequent. If your partner is less inclined to initiate intimacy, it could be because their needs are being met elsewhere. Conversely, if things pick up in the bedroom, it could be a sign they’re feeling guilty. Interestingly, the same is true of them suddenly being nicer overall. This might mean bringing gifts or being more attentive and more complimentary. In many cases, this increase is often an overcompensation to make up for something. However, it’s important to note that other things like stress or low energy levels can impact libido.

4. How They Treat You

The last indicator of a cheating partner, according to Aaron, is they become less attentive or start to treat you poorly. Starting unnecessary fights, becoming overly critical, or becoming distant are good indicators of a cheating partner. In contrast, people do occasionally lash out at each other after a hard day. Therefore, it’s important to take note of the frequency and severity of your partner’s outbursts.

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Common Occurrences

While most people know how badly it feels to be cheated on, a YouGov poll found that more than 50% of participants had been in at least one previous relationship with a cheating partner. However, for those who can’t help but stay, there are some general maintenance tips to prevent the desire. The JSR suggests considering how one might feel if the roles were reversed. “Our findings offer a way people can withstand short-term temptations: Stop and consider how romantic partners may be affected by your desire to pursue an alternative partner,” said Gurit E. Birnbaum, co-author of the paper. “In these situations, perspective-taking may foster empathy for the partner’s potential suffering.”

“When such situations involve a conflict between the allure of alternative partners and the goal of maintaining the current relationship, perspective-taking may tip the scale in favor of long-term considerations over short-term pleasures,” Birnbaum explained.

Avoiding Becoming a Cheating Partner

Another helpful tool for avoiding the temptation of cheating is, according to Lucia O’Sullivan, a Professor of Psychology at the University of New Brunswick, communication. She explains that couples should discuss what they think constitutes as cheating, because people have differing views on what is considered “crossing the line”.

Next, she shares that couple who are able to “maintain their monogamy” in a world full of attractive people, use these common approaches. They focus on the positive aspects of their partner and invest time into one another. On the other hand, they should focus on the negative aspects of other people they might find attractive. And they think about how much they appreciate their partner and how much would be lost if they cheated.

Furthermore, O’Sullivan explains that when people act on their attraction, whether verbally or physically, they’re more inclined to cross the line and cheat.

It never feels good to find out you have a cheating partner, but, in most cases, it also doesn’t feel good to the person who’s stepped out. Feelings of guilt bubble up over the surface and cause severe inner turmoil, sometimes for both partners. However, it’s essential to communicate and respect each other’s boundaries because not doing so could lead to the downfall of an otherwise happy relationship.

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