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Jade Small
Jade Small
January 7, 2024 ·  7 min read

Mom Admits She Put Her 2-Year-Old Daughter Up for Adoption as Soon as She Had Her Son

As a mother, I could never imagine giving up one of my children in favor of gender. A sister shares her story about her sibling who put her 2-year-old daughter up for adoption once she had given birth to a son. Covid-19 has seen so many families suffer heartbreak and loss, but this story just sends shivers down your spine! It should be noted that this story cannot be 100% verified as it was sourced from a Reddit forum; it still makes for a very interesting and shocking read. Could this be true?

The woman shared the tale, admitting the whole thing made her livid

On a family zoom call after the second child’s birth, it was revealed that her sister had put her daughter up for adoption. She had had her daughter with her boyfriend 2 years ago. As with all families, everyone is keen to see and meet the new arrival. With the current health situation we live in, a family zoom call was the way to ‘meet’ the new baby. Her sister lives a few states away, and of course, many families like this one had not seen each other in the last year. After chatting and seeing the new baby, the poster of the story asked if she could see her niece. It was then that things turned to the bizarre…

My sister got quiet and said she doesn’t have her.

My aunt questioned this and I was also confused,” she went on, but that “after a few minutes my sister said that in the beginning of January she put her daughter up for a closed adoption because she couldn’t care for two kids.

Everyone on the zoom call was astonished that she put her daughter up for adoption

In fact, the poster said that the whole family “was a mess.” Stating that they instantly “lost it.” Understandably, the family was astounded that they had not been included or consulted concerning this major decision. Only being informed now when it was too late to make alternative suggestions. Instead of her deciding to put her daughter up for adoption.

We didn’t know,” the poster wrote, adding that everyone was heartbroken that they “never got to say goodbye.” The poster said her sister could have easily spoken to the family before making such a radical decision. The family would have been there to support her in any way she needed and would not have had to put her daughter up for adoption.

I could have taken her,” the woman went on. “I’ve had multiple miscarriages/fertility issues and although I am currently pregnant, I am stable, owning a home. And, I have the resources to have taken a toddler as well as have my baby.”

There is more to this story that the poster says needs to be heard, about her sister who put up her daughter for adoption

My sister has always also said she wanted to be a boy mom,” the poster shared, hinting that maybe the reason she was so quick to give up her first child was tied to some kind of cruel gender bias. I know my sister and I know deep down she just didn’t want a daughter. She was depressed when she found out she was having a girl but thrilled for this entire recent pregnancy. I asked her when she’d get bored of the new baby and get rid of that one too,” the poster went on. “I asked her how the hell she could do this without reaching out to the family … So, I called her a monster for making children she didn’t want to care for, like they were a novelty. I said some other things too.

At this point, my grandmother is a complete mess and says her chest hurts so I stop,” the poster recalled. “My aunt, who is with my grandmother, goes to help her and turns off the camera.”

Since this disastrous zoom call, things have not improved in the least.

“My sister has since cut off all contact from the entire family. My father is pissed at me for blowing up (I was the only one who did). He says that I pushed her away. He said he could have tried to convince her to reverse it. But, my verbal lashing completely ruined any chance of getting my niece back.”

The poster is horrified that she is being judged as the one who is in the wrong

The poster said of her dad’s reaction:

I don’t think he understands what a closed adoption means. Also, adoption takes a minute so for her to have it completed by January makes me feel this process was in place for a minute. I don’t think there’s any chance of seeing my niece again when the mother and father both signed her to be adopted. He’s mad at me because now he lost his granddaughter and is afraid he’ll never know his grandson.”

Apart from being victimized for her outburst at her sister, who put her daughter up for adoption, she is also being taken to task for almost giving her grandmother a heart attack.

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Comments on the poster’s story rife with opinion. Many were very suspicious of the whole story

From one person’s reaction being “truly horrific,” and others being traumatized by the story. (“I’m so scared for your niece right now!” one person wrote.)

The ‘closed adoption’ story seems very suspect to me,” wrote one person.

Yeah maybe it’s because I read a lot of true crime, but the first thing I thought was that sounds so suspicious,” added another, who suggested she “call the police and get it all checked out!”

Convincing anyone to ever adopt any child other than a newborn baby is so difficult,” noted yet another person. “But the OP’s sister just so happened to find someone willing to take a 2-year-old off her hands just before her new baby was born?

It was blatantly clear to many that the story of her sister who had put her daughter up for adoption, had massive holes and was not legitimate.

I have trouble believing a social worker or any legit agency would allow this without question/therapy/intervention or even contacting family,” one person commented. “My fear is that the sister did this ‘under the table’ to people who were not vetted or could be traffickers. Or worse … like Caylee Anthony was supposedly with a babysitter. A ‘closed adoption’ sounds like a great excuse as to why no one will ever see the niece again. And they have no way of knowing it checking up on if she was safe.”

I’m a social worker in the US and if you’re in the US, your sister’s story is BS“. Another person added: “There’s no way that she could have adopted a 2-year-old child out in two months’ time. And, without someone reaching out to family.”

The child would have to be fostered first. For years possibly! And, they would have reached out to the family to see if the family could foster or adopt“. The poster added. “Also, if she’s surrendering a 2-year-old, I believe CPS would have to be involved.”

The poster updated all the commenters on receiving their feedback

I’ve contacted local CPS for my sisters area, local courts. And, I have a lawyer looking into it for me (starting tomorrow as I just obtained him). Thank you for the helpful comments pointing out the issues with this. Especially thank you to those in social work who reached out to me privately. I didn’t realize how many options I had to fight this or to see if it was legit. I’ll update when I find more out from the lawyer. Lots of people commenting this is fake; I really wish it was. This has been a nightmare. Thank you again to those with helpful suggestions and feedback.

We can only hope that if this story is in fact true and that she really had put her daughter up for adoption, that the little girl is safe and sound. Wherever she is.

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Sources:

  1. AITA for making a scene when I found out my sister put my niece up for adoption when she had her son. Reddit. March 29, 2021

Attention: While many of these stories are interesting, and we would love to take their word for it, the content in this article was taken from an unverifiable source (i.e., a Reddit forum). As such, we cannot guarantee that these events truly happened in the way that they are described in the original source.