Raising children is no easy task, especially as a single mother. Samm Jane, a 32-year-old mother of 5 from Nuneaton, Warwickshire, was absolutely horrified when she was contacted by her son’s school and told that he was cyberbullying a fellow pupil. Samm’s 11-year-old son had been sending cruel messages to one of the girls in his school, leaving her shocked at the fact that her son would be capable of such cruelty.
After receiving the phone call, Samm became determined to see exactly what was said to the girl.
When her son arrived home from school that day, she demanded that he unlock his phone so that she could see if the allegations were true, and shockingly enough, it was. She was mortified to learn that he had called the girl, ‘ugly’, ‘fat, a ‘c**t, ‘b**h’, and a ‘t**t’. He also went on to say, ‘I never want to see your ugly face in school. Your ugly face and fat body offend me.’
The girl responded to his messages by saying, ‘Stop being horrible to me,’ to which he replied in a voice note, ‘Urgh, you’re disgusting.’ She recalls how she was ‘shaking with anger after reading the messages and said to him, “What are you playing at?”.
All the son had to say in response was, ‘She does my head in at school’, to which Samm replied; “I don’t give a f**k.” ‘I told him, “She’s going to be looking in the mirror now and feeling insecure”. I couldn’t let it go’. Due to data protection rules, the school could not give Samm the girl’s name, but the single mom was determined to find out who she was and make things right. Samm got on the phone, did some investigating, and eventually found out who she was and where she lived.
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She then did what most parents wouldn’t do.
She made her son spend his birthday money on flowers and chocolates and marched him over to her house to formally apologize, not only to her but to her parents too!
The parents were shocked as their daughter hadn’t told them she was being bullied. Samm made her son explain exactly what he was sorry for once they arrived at her house. Her dad then told the boy; ‘I’m not going to lie mate if you were a grown-ass man and you said that to my daughter, I would have kicked your head in.’
Samm said she made it clear that her son would ‘never speak to a female like that again.’ The girl’s parents commended Samm for bringing her son over to apologize and for being a ‘decent parent’. Later, the mother of the girl texted Samm saying it was brave of her to come round and bring the situation to light as her daughter had just said they had fallen out.
Samm then confiscated all of her son’s electronic devices for a week after this all happened. She went on to say that he was so desperate to get his phone and other devices back that he even offered her money for it.