Children’s birthday celebrations could cause more drama than expected. In this case, a dad chose to exclude a student who has been bullying his daughter. She had told him she didn’t want him at her party. However, he doubted this decision when the student’s mother confronted him in the parking lot for inviting most of the class except her son who felt upset at the situation. He took to Reddit to ask if he was wrong for excluding a bully from his daughter’s party.
AITA for excluding a bully from my daughter’s birthday?
“I’ll be honest, I’m still learning the ropes with this whole dad thing,” he began his post. He had only been an active father in his daughter’s life for about a year. He wasn’t aware of her until then and ever since he began his fatherly duties, the mom has been out of the picture. Nevertheless, the daughter is about to turn seven and the dad planned a birthday celebration in their backyard with some of her classmates. Excluding the bully.
“When school opened again we started having problems with one kid in particular, ‘Nick’,” the father explains. “A lot of the parents have been complaining about him because he’s a huge bully to the other kids and gets benched (basically a time out) a lot during recess. I’ve had talks with the teacher because he made my daughter cry after teasing her constantly about her mom.”
The father complained to the teachers who promised to handle the situation and keep Nick away from the little girl. Additionally, they spoke many times with his mother but “all she seems to do is baby the kid”. Fortunately, Nick hasn’t bothered the daughter since that incident. Still, it’s no surprise when the daughter included most of the class on the guest list but not him.
“[His] mom confronted me after school when I was picking her up,” wrote the father. “I guess he was crying that he didn’t get an invitation. I had my daughter wait in the car and this lady was giving me hell for excluding her son when this could’ve been a chance for him to finally get along with his classmates.”
Including or Excluding a Bully?
However, the father pointed out that “he had months to do that (or her to teach him to).” This confrontation occurred in the last week of school and Nick didn’t make many attempts to befriend his classmates instead of bullying them.