There’s a surprising reason why an impressive number of straight men cheat on their partners with other men and it’s not what you’d expect. Well-known columnist Jana Hocking weighed in on the alarming figures with an eye-opening piece which raised quite a few eyebrows.
In her column, she revealed that after engaging with her follows via social media, she uncovered a recurring theme. countless men have engaged in sexual encounters with other men. They additionally hid these affairs from their partners.
Confessions of Hidden Relationships at an All-Time High

Many of her followers shared their stories of infidelity, confessing to some rather clandestine encounters. She was flooded with messages from men who had either hooked up with colleagues, friends and sometimes, even strangers.
Their confessions came in at such an alarming rate that she set out on a journey to find out why. One particular conversation she had with one of her male followers stood out. This man checked all the heterosexual blocks. They were gym-obsessed, athletically built and pretty macho in personality – typical for straight men. The odd part was when they casually admitted that they’d received oral sex from a male counterpart at a wedding.
The Confidence He Exuded Was Undeniable

He was nonchalant about the encounter, lacked total remorse and displayed complete detachment which seemed unusual. There was zero guilt in his conversation at all. Intrigued by her shocking findings, she decided it was time to reach out to women and find out their side of the story.
The Impact on The Women She Spoke to

Rather startled by this revelation, Jana reached out to multiple women readers whom had unknowingly shared their lives with men harboring the same dark secrets. Left devastated by their betrayal and broken trust, many were brave enough to speak of their encounters and how they figured out what was going on. One thing they all shared was the feeling of utter betrayal by their partners’ dishonesty.
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Sophie’s Story: A Charge That Exposed the Truth

29 year old Sophie shared her betrayal openly with Jana. She initially became suspicious when her boyfriend Nick’s bank statements exposed frequent visits to a well-known gay bar nearby. Denying any involvement, Sophie dug deeper, determined to expose him. Months later, suspicion lingering, she discovered shocking messages between Nick and another man on Snapchat.
After confrontation, Nick eventually caved by admitting he had been experimenting with his sexuality for quite some time. Sophie explained that she was patient and understanding, accepting that his personal journey was necessary for him, but the pain she felt was overwhelming. “It wasn’t just what he did,” Sophie said, “it was the fact that he hid it from me.”
Lara’s Story: Just as Shocking

Lara, 35 had a similar experience. Seven years into what she assumed to be a very healthy marriage. She was using her husband’s laptop at the time to check on flight details and was startled when she found an open tab for a gay dating site. She interrogated him and he almost immediately caved., admitting to browsing the site, but he maintained that he had never actually engaged in anything physical with another man.
Lara was left in absolute doubt, questioning where she went wrong. her self-worth plummeted at the thought of a marriage broken at its very foundation. She decided to seek counseling to help her process the complex emotions she was feeling after the shocking discovery.
What is The Root Cause of it All?

Jana Hocking’s investigation led to an interesting revelation regarding women and the betrayal they experienced through supposed straight men. Most commonly, it wasn’t their partner’s sexuality that shocked them, it was the dishonesty behind it all. She consulted with a therapist who explained how men undergo such extreme societal pressure, it often forces them to conform to expectations.
So many men are forced into the heterosexual role, expected to suppress their true selves – often being bi-curious or outright gay. This inner conflict often forces men to act on their inner nature and rather act out their deepest desires and hide it from their partners than expose themselves, risking the possible embarrassment that could lead from the outcome. One woman summed up their feeling on the matter quite well. “The betrayal wasn’t the sex; it was the lying. If he had been honest, I would have at least understood.”
A Call For Greater Acceptance in a Broken Society

We are all trying our hardest to survive an ever changing world. One with societal expectations tht often stifle one’s personal identity. Jana reiterated how important openness and honesty in relationships – true love knows acceptance. If more individuals felt safe expressing themselves and didn’t fear the outcome, less would resort to secrets like so many supposed straight men face.
These stories may be painful for both the men and women involved – both suffering from their very own inner truths. This serves as a reminder that honesty builds a strong foundation in any relationship, regardless of an individual’s personal curiosity or preferences. The rule of thumb is quite simple: live authentically.
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