“Too much love never spoils children. Children become spoiled when we substitute presents for presence.” — Dr. Anthony P. Witham
Nobody likes spoiled children and their antics. They scream until they get what they want, they are irritable, and they don’t care about the people around them. However, spoiled children often don’t like themselves either. They are unhappy, resentful, frustrated that they can’t get what they want. Whatever they have, it’s never enough. Since they lack discipline and patience, they often grow up to fail socially and professionally. It’s up to the parents to prevent their kids from becoming like this.
However, many people associate spoiled children with giving them any material possession they want. For instance, parents who try to “buy” their kids’ love without giving them much attention are at risk of this. But there’s another side to spoiling children: parents who give in to their children’s whims and don’t discipline them. This could include the parents giving in when the child demands privileges, ignores the needs of others and refuses to accept accountability.
However, there’s no such thing as too much love when spoiling children. That is to say, parents who are attentive and discipline their kids aren’t at risk of spoiling them. They know how to say no and, in turn, the kids eventually learn how to accept it.  And it’s hard to say no, especially when the children are upset. But it’s a little easier when parents do everything possible to ensure their kids feel loved.
How to Avoid Raising a Spoiled Child
Non-spoiled children are generally pleasant, grateful, and have self-control. Here are some important ways to help set them up for this success.
- Assign age-appropriate chores. This will help the children’s self-esteem and sense of responsibility. Plus, housework is an important skill for their adult life.
- Teach them to say thank you for big things and little things.
- Discipline by setting firm boundaries and expectations. This will certainly help them develop patience and self-control.
- Don’t give false praise. Instead, tell them it’s okay to fail and that everyone is good at different things. Encourage without giving unwarranted praise.
- Teach them the value of money and how to manage a household budget or their allowance. 
How to Make Your Children Feel Loved
Fortunately, there are many ways parents could show their love to their kids. Emphasis on “show” it. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Some of the items on this list seem small, but they could have a profound effect on a child.