A young couple from Florida has openly discussed their ‘throuple’ and have said that it is all a “delicate balance” but that having a third person is suitable for everyone involved, despite others’ jealousy.
Micheal and Lauren Taylor, both thirty years old, began dating in 2011 and got married five years later. After seven years of a happy marriage, they both realized that something was missing, and when they met Jessica Woodstock in 2018, they felt that they had found what they were looking for. Jessica explained to the couple that she was polyamorous and that she was attracted to them both. They have been a ‘throuple’ ever since.
A unique shared love
The throuple have opened their lives to the public on Instagram and have described their relationship as three people who love each other equally but also have individual relationships. Micheal explains that Jess has been polyamorous for most of her life and that even though he and Lauren had spent seven years together, they still felt that they had more love to give.
He went on to say that between the three of them, they all share the love equally. “We all have equal responsibilities to care for ourselves and each other.” Although the throuple is mostly the three of them, they recognize that there are additional relationships to consider, Micheal and Lauren, Micheal and Jessica, and Jessica and Lauren.[1]
“Three equal parts with equal responsibilities. We have a running joke for when we leave the house – if one of us forgets something, it’s almost guaranteed that one of the others will remember to grab it.
“Each of us shines separately as individuals and come together for the same purpose. We push each other to better ourselves and to pursue our passion. We celebrate every win in our house.”
Micheal Taylor
Breaking the news of their relationship
In the beginning, it was challenging to share the news of their new arrangement with their families, said Micheal. He also says that Jess’s family has always supported her lifestyle choice and has known about it for a long time.
“We were extremely careful and patient in explaining it to Lauren’s family because of the adversity – coming out as bisexual and welcoming another woman into the marriage.”
Micheal Taylor
It was not long, however, for the families to warm-up to the idea of the throuple, and now spend the holidays together as a throuple.
Extending their family
The throuple got married in Asia in 2018 as it was not yet legal to do so in the USA. They have also extended their family.
Lo and Mike conceived a daughter, Aria Lyn, and she was born in December 2020. The three parents now take turns looking after Aria and say it’s so much easier with three rather than two!
‘We all take it in turns to sleep in the spare room and give her a feed throughout the night so whoever is on the late shift doesn’t disturb the other two.’
Lauren Taylor
Making a throuple work
A throuple is not simple, but it is possible. Lauren says to be able to take care of others; you first need to look after yourself. Loving yourself first is the most important step. She suggests Yoga and meditation to create a sacred space for yourself.
“Knowing your worth will allow you to be free of insecurity, doubt, and jealousy. Then, empower each other through the good and the bad. When new problems arise, face them head-on right away. Talk through the challenges, big or small, and find a resolution together. Being on the same page is crucial – especially when making big commitments. It’s important to communicate each individual’s wants and needs, all day, every day, so that no emotions are suppressed.
We live by inspiring rather than influencing others. We serve to spread love everywhere we go. Any relationship, monogamous or otherwise, has its challenges. Being human, we are bound to feel insecure, angry, sad, etc., at some point.
Although these emotions stem from both internal and external factors, we work together to consciously remove them from our space. If you constantly show happiness and light, you’re more likely to attract those with aligned paths. If it means adding another person to the mix, embrace that.”
Lauren Taylor
Throuple says people are jealous of their three-way relationship
The public’s reaction to their relationship often makes the throuple smile, and while some are confused by their set-up, others are just plain jealous. Jessica said:[2]
“We usually have to repeat ourselves a few times to spell it out’ for them if you will. People are generally confused but intrigued to know more about the relationship. Most reactions are quite comical, and the questions start to pour in. Men, especially, are excited and envious.
Here are a few initial questions we receive from those who have never encountered something like this in person: ‘Who sleeps in the middle?’, ‘Who controls the thermostat?’, ‘How did you all meet?’, ‘Who wears the pants?’, ‘Do you plan on getting married or having kids?’, and ‘Do you go on separate date nights?’
The key to this is to always be yourself, don’t hold back your wants and needs, and prevent resentment. It’s also important to create foundational relationships like the three separate ones we share.
“A triad is a delicate balance.”
Jessica Taylor
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Sources:
- “Married couple give birth to their first child after forming a ‘throuple’.” Daily Mail. Jessica Green. February 2, 2021.
- “’Throuple’ Say People Are Jealous Of Their Three-Way Relationship.” Ladbible. Jess Hardiman. December 04, 2019.