11. “You always do this”
Telling someone “you always do this” during a disagreement can feel really unfair. It takes one moment and turns it into a pattern, even if that’s not accurate. Instead of focusing on the current issue, this kind of phrase shifts the spotlight to every past mistake. That can make your partner feel judged or stuck in a label. Even when you’re joking, using phrases like this can add tension over time. A better approach is to talk about the situation at hand without throwing in the past. If you’re upset that he forgot something, just say that. Avoid using words that sound like accusations. One of the most helpful pieces of relationship advice for anyone and everyone is to stay in the moment and talk through issues as they come, not as part of a running list.
