Recently, a showdown took place on a Reddit thread. It described two mothers in a showdown at a fancy restaurant. One of them had asked to be moved away from the other’s crying baby. For this, the mother of the baby called her an a*****e. So, in her defense, she posted about it on Reddit, where the readers surprisingly sided with her. The majority of the comments said that the mother should have taken the baby outside while it cried… or left it at home with a babysitter.
We asked to be moved from the crying baby
A mother of two had recently given birth to her second child. She and her husband decided to go out for a nice meal at a fancy restaurant for the first time since birth. “My husband and I went out for dinner a couple of nights ago. It was the first time by ourselves after our baby was born. It’s my second child, and the first for my husband, so it was kind of a big deal for us. We got a babysitter, and we went to a very nice, fancy restaurant,” she wrote under the username, u/Ok_Candy7966.
When they arrived at the restaurant, having left their baby at home with a babysitter, the waiter sat another couple next to them. They had brought their baby along for the meal. “A few minutes after we ordered, another couple sat at the table next to us…with a small baby in a stroller,” she wrote. “At first, it was fine, but after a few minutes, the baby started crying. They tried to comfort it. But every time it seemed they had managed to make it sleep, it woke up crying again.”
u/Ok_Candy7966 said they had already ordered their food, so they just wanted to move further away from the crying baby. “By then, we just wanted to leave, but we had already ordered. So we decided to ask the waiter if we could change tables to the other side of the restaurant. The waiter asked if there was a problem. So I said it was our first time out after having a baby, and we didn’t feel like spending our evening next to someone else’s crying baby. He was super nice and quickly asked another waiter to help him set up the new table for us. Another couple that was in the same area also asked to be seated elsewhere.“
The parents of the crying baby were offended by u/Ok_Candy7966‘s request to be moved further away. “The couple with the baby overheard what we said to the waiter, and the mom got especially upset and called me an [asshole]. She went on and on, saying that I probably don’t have kids (I have two). And that babies are also people. And we should just accept that babies can be loud and cry, and there’s nothing she could do about it.”
This caused u/Ok_Candy7966 to snap. “I didn’t want to start a fight or anything, but I got really annoyed by her attitude,” she wrote. “So, I told her that she could actually do something about the crying. She could take her baby home so it can properly sleep and then let everyone else there enjoy their meals. She kept saying stuff, but I just ignored her, went to our new table, and tried to have a nice dinner (although we could still hear the crying baby, but at least, it was not right next to us).”
Am I the A**hole for wanting to move from the crying baby?
When u/Ok_Candy7966 expressed the incident to her sister, she took the mother o the crying baby’s side. Now, she wants to know whether or not she was in the wrong for asking to be moved. “She said I shouldn’t have told the waiter that we wanted to move because of the baby,” she wrote, referring to her sister. “And I shouldn’t have said what I said to the mom. So now, I’m not sure??”
There were an astounding amount of replies from people who say the other mother should not have brought her baby. They took u/Ok_Candy7966‘s side in saying a fancy restaurant is no place for a crying baby, or babies in general. “You have kids and got a babysitter. In what universe do you want to go to a fancy restaurant ANY time and listen to somebody else’s crying baby at the next table. No way,” said u/corgwin. Next, u/BeastOGevaudan commented: “People with crying babies should get up and take them out of the dining room to soothe them. Yes, even if it means coming back to a cold plate.”
Then, another person said they only take their children to family restaurants. “This is why we only take our son to ‘family-friendly’ places. And do our best to make sure he’s quiet and behaved. The absolute LAST thing I want on a kid-free night is to deal with someone else’s kids.” While u/jitsufitchick agreed, saying: “I agree here. I have a newborn, and believe me, when I get an opportunity, I am getting a sitter and going to a place where kids can’t go.”
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- “Woman asks if she was wrong to move tables after being seated next to a crying baby in a nice restaurant – so, who do YOU think is right?” Daily Mail. Claire Toureille. November15 2022.
- “This Woman Wants To Know If She’s Wrong For Asking To Switch Tables In A Restaurant Because She Was Seated Next To A Crying Baby, And People Have Big Opinions.” Buzzfeed. Shelby Heinrich. November 14, 2022.
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