Anything material, like money, is always a tricky subject in human relationships. And for a lot of relationships, owning a house, or having a family are typical dreams to have. However, for a couple on Reddit, the matter of buying a house has made the ground unstable.
Sharing the expenses is a good sign in a relationship. Usually, that should help in avoiding financial disagreements. But not in this case. In the original post, a 22-year-old, and her boyfriend had decided to upgrade to a house from their rented apartment.
However, because of their substantial difference in wages, OP said that the house will only be bought in her name. As a result, her BF gave her the silent treatment for 3 days. Of course, this has also made the OP question herself if she was being the A-hole, which brought her to the AITA subreddit.
There are loads of details in the story that has left commenters divided. So, let’s start from the beginning.
Let’s Get A House
OP says that her BF is 25 years old and that they have been a couple for 4 years. They have also been living together for 2 years in a rented apartment. Their life was great. However, the two have very different wages:
“I recently got a new job and make around $80k a year and have been wanting to get out of our apartment and into a house. My bf on the other hand doesn’t have a very good work ethic and has had about 8 different jobs in the 4 years we have been together, all making minimum wage.”–Reddit
Their current living situation took this into account. Because of her higher wages, the OP would pay more of their expenses. But this did not mean the bf did not contribute anything:
“We currently split our rent 50/50 and he pays his bills (car payment, insurance, etc.) on his own and I pick up all the groceries, wifi, dog stuff. I’m totally fine with the fact I pick up more expenses since I make more than him and he’s never complained.”–Reddit
Nevertheless, OP still talked about getting a house, and her bf supported it wholeheartedly. OP’s savings were enough for the house’s down payment. But, as is clear from her bf’s situation, he really did not have much in savings, and would not be able to contribute towards the down payment.
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The Trouble Arose When Finalizing The Deal For The House
Given their situation, the two searched for a house that OP would be able to afford by herself. But the mortgage would still be split evenly between them. OP would also be paying for home insurance, water, electricity, and other utility bills.
They did manage to find one that was in their budget and they liked it. However, a few weeks before signing the papers, OP had something to say: