14. “You’re just like your father.”
A phrase that toxic moms with adult children enjoy using the most. When used negatively, this phrase isn’t about genetics—it’s about punishment. Toxic moms often say this when they’re angry, especially if there’s bad blood with your dad. It turns part of your identity into an insult and uses a family grudge as a weapon. This kind of comment can make you feel ashamed of who you are, even if you had nothing to do with their issues. It’s meant to hit you where it hurts and keep old wounds open. A parent should never use your family ties as ammunition.