Being beautiful is such a debatable topic – signs of being attractive vary widely from person to person. Every individual varies in what they would consider attractive as well. Francesca Tighinean, a psychologist and life coach from Romania now based in the U.S., took to TikTok to discuss the five most common signs that suggest you may be more attractive than you initially realized.
Attractiveness and Subjectivity
Before we dive into these signs, it’s important to remember that beauty is multifaceted. Francecsa emphasizes how important it is to remember that attractiveness isn’t just about conventional standards such as symmetrical features. It’s rather the subtle cues people pick up from one another. Here are the five she listed in her TikTok video.
Sign #1: The Eyebrow Raise
The first on the list is the “eyebrow flash.” Often subtle and subconscious, this gesture occurs when someone is genuinely interested or intrigued. “This is known as the eyebrow flash. It can be a subconscious indication of interest or intrigue,” she explains. If you spot someone briefly raising their eyebrows when they interact with you, there’s a possibility they may find you attractive.
Sign #2: People Go Out of Their Way to Help You
Dubbed the “halo effect” by Francesca, if you notice acquaintances or strangers offering unexpected assistance, this may be another sign. “Because of the halo effect, where attractiveness is associated with positive qualities, we tend to subconsciously be friendlier and more generous to those we find attractive,” she notes. This behavior is oten associated with people associating attractiveness with kindness, intelligence, and other positive traits. This may prompt them to be more likely to extend their kindness.
Sign #3: You Rarely Receive Compliments
This sounds counterintuitive right? BUT Francesca argues that others may already assume you’re aware of how attractive you already are. “You rarely get compliments on your looks, and that’s because people probably think you are already aware of how attractive you are and therefore they believe they don’t have to remind you,” she says. This may feel discouraging at times, but instead, this lack of external feedback is possibly a sign that others see you as confident in your appearance, not needing their assurance.
Sign #4: You Catch People Staring
Do you often spot people staring at you? This may be one of the affirmative signs you’re attractive. Francesca suggests that these stares may not be related to you being out of place, but rather that it’s because people find you attractive. While these stares sometimes may come across as judgement, they usually come from admiration.
Sign #5: Shock at Your Insecurities
Many are self-conscious or even insecure about how attractive they really are. Francesca points out that others may be surprised by you haring your insecurities with them. This is often associated with them seeing you in a more positive light than you see yourself.
“People are surprised by your insecurities. This response often indicates that they view you in a more positive light than you perceive yourself,” she explains. This common disconnect between they way you view yourself and how others to is a reminder that you should not be underestimating the signs you’re attractive.
Confidence and Perception
Francesca’s insights have an underlying theme, filling the gap between self-perception and external perception. We are often our very own harshest critics, focusing on our self-perceived flaws, while those around us may see things quite differently. By recognizing these signs, you may find that embracing your confidence in your own attractiveness may escalate.
Takeaway Message on Signs of Being Attractive
The signs you’re attractive go beyond physical features. It encompasses your personality, behavior, and the subtle signals you send out. Her five signs stand as a testament to how beautiful you may come across to others without even realizing it. Be it their generosity, surprise in your lack of self-confidence or general interest in you.
May these pointers remind you to appreciate yourself more. So, the next time you catch someone raising their eyebrows, going out of their way to help, or staring at you, remember Francesca’s advice: you might just be more attractive than you give yourself credit for.