Family is usually the part of one’s life where every mistake is forgiven. And this is often used to justify and condone toxic relationships between family members. Usually, we would see a family member mistreating another member under the garb of tough love. And when it becomes too late- we realize it for the manipulation and the control that it truly is. Around 3 years ago, a post surfaced on r/MurderedByWords where a grandpa had written a letter to his daughter. The contents of the letter expressed the disgust he had for his daughter- who had disowned her son because he was gay. The letter was poignant and moving, and no one would ever blame the father for writing this down.
“I’m disappointed in you as a daughter. You’re correct that we have a shame in the family but are mistaken about what it is. Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real ‘abomination’ here. A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature’. The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that ‘you didn’t raise your son to be gay’. Of course, you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t choose it any more than he was left-handed. You however have made the choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded, and backward.
So, while we are in the business of (disowning) our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous grandson to raise and I don’t have time for the heartless bitch of a daughter. If you find your heart, give us a call.”
Grandpa’s Letter Was Scathing, To Say The Least
Even though it was difficult for the grandpa to write such a letter to his daughter, duty sometimes prevails over love. He had his responsibility to his grandson, who had been ceremoniously disgraced by his mother. As mentioned by the Irish Post, the grandson, aptly named Chad, is now living with his grandfather. As it turns out, the grandfather provided him with the home, love, and care that he truly deserved.
People on the subreddit were naturally quite awestruck at the way the grandpa wrote his letter. Some users also expressed their hatred towards policing people’s sexual orientation. u/IOnlyNut2ToddlerVore mentioned, “I hate this. This sort of thing is usually religiously motivated, and as a Christian, I can say it is 100% unbiblical as well. If anyone tries to tell me that their child doesn’t deserve a place in their house, God is telling them that they don’t deserve a place in His, either.”
u/Subject1928 added to this with, “Doesn’t the Bible also say something about people not being the judges because God is the judge? Just goes to show that people like this don’t really read their own boo, and just use certain parts to justify their hate.”
But It Remains A Commendable Stance Nonetheless
u/hail_the_cloud asserted their agreement to Grandpa’s letter. “Regardless of the relationship that she and her son have in the future she’s going to reject a certain amount of accountability for that decision and would make it an unspoken rule of their new relationship that he forgives her and that they never discuss it, but her dad didn’t let her have that and I love him for it. Never stopped parenting either!”
u/rafaelrom1980 stated everything that we wanted to express, “[…]I teared up…that was beautiful, not in a karma sort of way. I imagine their poor grandson showing up at their house and explaining what happened. I imagine the heartbreak the grandparents must have felt. Most of all I imagine how they comforted him in his despair and took him in.”