Reddit has always been the source for news that doesn’t make it to mainstream media. Stories there, while not always verifiable, give us a glimpse of what is happening to everyday people. After all, which media company would report that a dying wife wanted her husband to sleep with her ex? A Throwaway account recently posted on r/relationship_advice that their wife:
“…recently sat me down and told me that one of the last things she wanted to do was have sex with a previous partner of hers. I of course was shocked and when I asked why the f**k she wants that. So basically she thinks that her most physically compatible satisfying lover was him. She gave a whole monologue about how sex sometimes is just physical and how emotionally fulfilling sex is with me but it was bullshit to get to that point.”
Naturally, the partner had to turn to Reddit to ask for help.
Should OP’s Dying Wife Be Excused For Wanting To Sleep With Ex?
One could also understand the frustration that the partner was feeling towards their wife at this point:
“I know what I want to say, but I don’t know if that’s right. I’m so hurt that sex with an ex was apparently so good that she needs to do it once before she dies. I just hate everything about this.”
The veracity of the post is definitely up for judgment, and the subreddit actually had to remove the post through moderators. But that never stopped the multiple users of the subreddit from putting in their two cents about this. u/tmchd stated:
“If this is a real story, well then, just pack her stuff and let her live with her ex for the rest of her time.” Harsh, but true.”
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When a Man Loves A Woman- But Then His Wife Wants To Sleep With Someone Else
Human relationships are tricky- no doubt about that. But there is something so hurtful about this post. Imagine marrying the person you love, going through the pain of their impending death, and then they tell you that they want to sleep with their ex. No spouse should have to deal with that, and in this particular situation, the wife is certainly in the wrong.
Maybe she feels that this would bring her life some meaning, but the pain that her spouse feels won’t really be worth it. u/dancerwales remarked with some interesting points:
“Immediate concern: is she in contact with her ex? Is she seeking permission from you, when she’s already established a reconciliation with her ex? Either way. WTF. She wants your lasting memory of her to be that she left you for a rumble in the bedsheets with an ex? Sorry but her illness is not an excuse to treat you like sh*t. That is incredibly insulting to you and your relationship.”
The comments followed on this subreddit, with multiple users commenting on what they felt prudent regarding the wife. u/1threadkiller1 went on to ask an important question:
“How does she know this person at all after 10 years with you? Or that this person would want to involve themselves in no-strings sex with a dying EX from over a decade ago? This seems like a very odd request to bring to you without any leg work or preparation. That she would significantly risk blowing up her marriage and end of life companionship and care for sex with someone she isn’t in contact with and doesn’t know would still even entertain the thought of intimacy with her.”
Dying Wishes- How far should they be fulfilled?
If one were to look at the post of OP, they would feel the raw pain of the impending loss of their wife:
“My wife has a terminal disease. She is projected to live at most 9 months. I am of course destroyed. We’ve been together for a decade. I don’t remember life without her and I don’t know what I’m going to do when she’s gone. I have been doing my best to make the last days of her life good and grant whatever wish I can.”
u/Objective_Drawing_33 probably had the most balanced reply to this:
“Some people are somehow able to separate sex from romance and I don’t blame them for that. But your WIFE who has been married for a DECADE asking to have sex with someone else? Dude trust me, that’s just cheating with an extra step, you better talk to discuss this very seriously since you’ve been married for over a decade.”
As it stands, everyone has their opinion about this. But one thing can be assured- sleeping with your ex before dying is not how you want to be remembered as a wife. Yet, what do you guys think? Is she fair? Or is she using her illness as an excuse to cheat on her partner?
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