Relationships are tricky. The boundary that exists can often get blurry- and then relationships break. In a recent Reddit post, a woman stated that her boyfriend had gotten mad at her because she refused him something. Now, that could be a symptom of extreme narcissistic behavior. The woman had simply not given the combination of her safe to him- and for good reason!
This was her profession, and there was a huge possibility that her boyfriend may just jeopardize her. Let’s read the entire post, before deciding upon a verdict:
“I am a Gemologist, and spend my days in the lab testing and identifying stones. From the nature of my work I also have a large and valuable collection of jewellery but also gem specimens that I keep in a safe I specifically bought and had installed to keep them safe. I also have a second smaller safe for keeping important documents like passports.”
Now, we come to her relationship. OP has been living with her boyfriend and has already given him the combination for her smaller safe. This seems quite natural- as he must have some important documents to place too. But recently, he started asking her for the combination to her larger, professional safe:
“I’ve said no because he has no reason to open the safe as the only thing it’s used for is storing my collection, he’s said he has no interest in my gem collection, doesn’t want to look at them, but still wants the code to access them. This is causing tension because he says I should give it to him as a show or trust, and I said no, because he literally has no reason to go in there so he doesn’t need the code. This is a six figure collection so I’m not being difficult over a few little gems here. I am the only one who knows the code.”
OP Should Never the Give Safe’s Combination To Anyone
Anyone reading this would come to the conclusion that her boyfriend was acting suspiciously. Now, if something acts like a duck, moves like a duck, eats a duck, chances are- it won’t be a cow. So, r/AITA came to the forefront and put their verdict for the community to read and judge.
u/Satansbiscuit666 was rational in their judgment:
“I wouldn’t trust anybody with the code. Money does weird things to people. Even the ones you trust completely.”
u/DutchOnionKnight also reiterated the sentiment and said: