The relationship that a son shares with his mother is quite different from any other relationship. In fact, a child would even go up against their father if it means protecting their mother. Also, one can’t really find any sort of closure in estranged couples. When a husband separates from his wife, it would seem like one walked away with the proverbial goose.
But it is not really the case. Both parties hurt- just some hurt a little more. If there is a child in the relationship, they would grow up with resentment. And to be frank, it doesn’t matter if the child is young or old. Resentment can rear its head at any point. The fear of abandonment by their own parent- a curse that they would have to bear forever.
A Son and His Broken Family
Something that this 25-year-old son would never forget. In a r/AITA post made by OP- u/iamabadassbitch a couple of years ago, one would find a son resenting his father. OP wrote that his parents were about to get divorced, “when my mother got diagnosed with a terminal illness. After the diagnosis, my father stalled the divorce proceedings.”
“My father filed for divorce after 26 years of marriage after he fell in love with his younger business partner. She recently gave birth to his child.”
What really affected the young man was the love his mother had for his father. And what stung more was that this love stayed even after her husband got another woman pregnant.
The Wrench In Their Plans
“In the middle of the divorce, she was diagnosed with a terminal illness and was only given a few months to live. All this time, we, her children have looked after her. I took her to her appointments and we paid for the treatment by taking loans We didn’t ask our father for money, even though he was willing to cover the expenses. Legally, at the time of her death, she was still married to my father.”
“During her last days, my father had to move to another city to be there for his daughter’s birth. My uncle made a Facebook post asking for blood donation and stated that she was critical. When my dad got to know about it, he immediately flew down to our city.”
Now, one needs to look at things from the son’s perspective. Here was a young guy who had to take care of his sick mother- quite possibly putting his dreams on hold. And the person who was supposed to do so- was in a different city. Sure, we won’t be blaming the father for divorcing the woman. But, we can’t stop feeling disappointed at his betrayal of her love.
The Son’s Revenge- Folly of Youth?
“When he showed up to the hospital, he was in a bad shape. His clothes were unkempt. He wanted to see my mother one last time. I told him that there was no use of that as she was unconscious. He begged and cried in front of everyone, I still didn’t allow him to meet her. My mother passed away the next morning. He still didn’t leave and wanted to be there for the funeral and memorial service. We banned him from attending.”
We can understand that this would be quite a blow to his father. But do we really blame the son here? The father didn’t just betray his wife. He also betrayed his own son by going to a different city to celebrate the birth of another daughter. Let us be clear on our stance. We are not blaming people for loving whoever they want. We are simply blaming people who would hurt others for love. That is simply unacceptable.
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