Being a surrogate can often be a matter of pride- but there are circumstances. What if it is your own father asking you for surrogacy? While we may think that we would be doing everything for our family- there is a line that needs to be drawn. On Reddit’s much-vaunted platform r/AITA, a woman complained about this exact thing. The 26-year-old stated that her 56-year-old father, who had recently married a 40-year-old woman, wasn’t able to have a baby.
“They are attempting IVF but aren’t having luck. They told me this in confidence & asked if I could keep the fact they are trying for a baby to myself; which I have done no problem. (Recently) he asked if things didn’t work out with IVF would I be willing to be a possible surrogate?”-Reddit
To be frank, the woman was quite disgusted with the idea. And we ask- who wouldn’t?
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While some of you may be thinking that OP’s reaction was a bit too harsh, we need to explore their relationship:
“My father and I don’t have the best relationship. Parents are divorced and he was an alcoholic until I went to college. We went 3 yrs NC bc of an argument. Only started speaking 3 yrs ago. All of this makes the fact that he asked so shocking.”-Reddit
After politely refusing her father, OP herself felt quite surreal.
“I was so shocked that I thought I’d entered the twilight zone & started to feel nauseous. Was going to keep this to myself but don’t think I can. I want to tell my mom. We have a very close relationship & constantly tell each other everything. Even if this is the end of that conversation, that my dad felt comfortable asking is weirding me out.”-Reddit
OP ended her post about her father asking her to be a surrogate by mentioning that she would have to talk to her mom about it.
“I know part of why he asked is bc he was hoping to save the money a surrogacy agency costs. It’s grossing me out that he had to have thought of me being pregnant. It’s gross & I’d like to talk to my mom about this.”-Reddit
Such a weird interaction definitely sparked the flames of Reddit. One Redditor, who goes by the username Kare6Bear6 stated: